How Overcoming Mother Wounds Fuels Entrepreneurial Success?
Overcoming Mother Wounds: The Key to Unlocking Your Entrepreneurial Success and Financial Freedom
Making money from my business has been my goal since I started in 2020. In reality, my goal wasn't just to make money for the sake of it, but to improve my life, alleviate financial anxiety, and make my parents proud of my choices. I wanted to showcase my confidence, demonstrate my expertise, and prove that I deserve to sell my offers. However, the problem was that I put too much pressure on myself. I wanted money; I wanted a 6-figure business. Is that wrong? Many female entrepreneurs have a complicated relationship with money due to mother wounds.
The Complex Relationship Between Female Entrepreneurs and Money
Wanting to grow your business and earn money isn't inherently bad. However, attracting what we want can be extremely complicated, depending on our relationship with money and our mother’s wound. For a long time, I sabotaged myself by seeking perfection, craving external validation, struggling to promote my offers, and setting the right price for myself. I had difficulty seeing myself as a female entrepreneur and leader, rather than a little girl seeking her mother's love in others.
Common Patterns in Female Entrepreneurs with Mother Wounds
To compensate for feelings of abandonment, many women struggle to move beyond the status of little girls and can't take their place because they fear changing status or earning more. They attract clients they need to babysit, who are emotionally immature and need saving, and who struggle to pay. They fear talking to their dream clients who are self-led and see them as an authority, ready to pay their fair price if they calibrate to their true dream clients.
What type of woman are you ?
1. The Dutiful Daughter
This archetype reflects the woman who is trapped in self-doubt, perfectionism, and a subconscious need to prove her worth to her mother and family. She internalizes a deep belief that she must shrink herself, stay small, and prioritize others’ approval, especially her mother’s. She tends to overwork, people-please, and feels guilt or fear about surpassing her mother.
Traits:
Struggles with self-worth, always trying to prove herself.
Feels the need to remain “the good girl” to be accepted.
Lacks clarity, structure, and consistency, often overwhelmed.
Fears surpassing her mother or being more successful.
Constantly doubts her intuition and doesn't trust herself.
Suffers from hyper-independence while still seeking approval.
Overworks to compensate for feeling undeserving.
Core Wound: "To be loved, I must not outshine my mother."
2. The Self-Made Protector
This archetype is the overachieving, hyper-independent woman who feels the need to be in control and act as the provider, often driven by a sense of duty to her family. She steps into a leadership role but overcompensates by never resting, always achieving more, and suppressing vulnerability. She works to protect her family, but this often comes at the cost of her well-being.
Traits:
High achiever and action-taker, constantly moving forward.
Financially successful, often becoming the provider for her family.
Controlling and micromanaging, feeling she must handle everything.
Rarely allows herself to rest or relax.
Hyper-independent, believing she can only rely on herself.
Overlooks emotional and intuitive needs, focusing on results.
Sees vulnerability as a weakness.
Core Wound: "To be safe, I must always be in control and provide for others."
The Impact of Mother Wounds on Business Growth
All these conscious or unconscious thoughts cause many female entrepreneurs to remain at a beginner status even though they are capable of coaching much more advanced individuals, or they fail to scale their business. They, therefore, have this impostor syndrome that remains, and generally, they have a complicated relationship with food. They will either take revenge by eating more sugar to forget that they can't develop their business, or have phases where they control their diet and phases of loss of control. They tend to feel guilty when they have money, especially having the fear of lacking. Why are they afraid of being ambitious to avoid their mother being jealous of them? This reinforces this feeling of wanting to remain a little girl, the perfect little girl, and being the parent of their mother instead of following their dreams.
Overcoming Perfectionism and Self-Doubt in Business
I remember spending hours looking at other people's content to make sure I wasn't saying anything wrong. So my content was drowning because I was afraid to say what I really thought. After all, I didn't trust. I learned that my opinion wasn't important. I learned to be silent. I spent my time perfectly writing my descriptions, my sales pages, or my site because I thought that if it wasn't perfect then I wouldn't get validation. This reminds me that if I had good grades at school, I had compliments. I see it with my clients that they need compliments to move forward when you need to have self-confidence. I work with them, and if they like their content even if it doesn't please everyone, it's a victory because they will attract their dream clients and not clients who will be dependent on them and will be too demanding.
Breaking the Cycle of self-punishment
If you lived with an emotionally immature and overprotective mother, you spend your time obeying your mother. You don't have time for yourself because you want to please your mother. You tell yourself that if you don't do as she wants, you will be criticized and punished. Especially if you weren't taught how to manage your money, you don't know how to invest, save, and be autonomous. You don't know how to control your time or your money because you haven't learned to say no to others but yes to yourself. Your mother promises you money but never gives it to you, you learn to fend for yourself and trust no one. The person who is supposed to show security doesn't do their job.
Learning to Trust Yourself and Your Business Instincts
You don't know how to control your time or your money because you haven't learned to say no to others but yes to yourself. Your mother promises you money but never gives it to you, so you learn to fend for yourself and trust no one. The person who is supposed to show security doesn't do their job. How can you believe that a coach can help you develop a business if you don't trust anyone or your own intuition?
Attracting the Right Clients for Your Business Growth
You've been conditioned to make choices based on others, but others think of their interests first. You must first be your own mother to develop the life you want. That's why many female entrepreneurs, especially coaches or wellness therapists, whether they fall into the category Dutiful Daughter or The Self-Made Protector, tend to attract clients who want to be saved because they want to be saved.
If you want to get the life you want, you need to invest in yourself to learn how to change your way of thinking instead of being in your hyper-independence. You're in survival mode and a trauma response because you think it's wrong to ask for help. After all, you can't take care of yourself or your business.
Building Healthy Business Relationships and Setting Boundaries
You need to learn to create connections, learn to trust yourself, and learn to say no, set the right price, and not be afraid to sell. If every year you tell yourself you're going to change, but every year you fall into the same traps, making the same resolutions but nothing changes:
"If I'm not moving forward, it's because I don't have enough money"
"If I'm not moving forward, it's because I don't have the ideal weight"
It's because you're self-sabotaging because you're not ready to change because you struggle to be regular and really change, you don't feel safe as you change. It's time to be accompanied by someone who sees your potential and knows how to obtain your transformation. You have the right to want more.
Overcoming Control Issues in Business
The need to control everything is a form of self-sabotage; if I don't have perfect hair, I don't make a video. If the energies aren't aligned, then I don't create content or launch my offer. If I don't have the right font, the right branding, then I can't start my activity. That's why many entrepreneurs are stuck in a 4-figure business instead of scaling to 5-6 figures. They're not in action but in controlling everything.
Trusting Your Business Intuition
What I want to highlight is the lack of self-confidence that leads to not following one's intuition. For a long time, I didn't finish offers or articles because I told myself it wasn't enough or that people had already done it, so why me? Everything I knew was a trauma response because I didn't trust myself. As soon as I saw one of my subjects taking off, I self-sabotaged out of fear of following my intuition.
Breaking Free from Family Financial Dynamics
The last point I want to address is being a provider for your family to get affection from your mother because you’re The Self-Made Protector. You're only applauded when you give money to your mother, which pushes you to always work, to be a high achiever not by choice but to receive love. You learn that to receive love, it is conditioned by money. People expect you to pay because you earn more money and you feel alone. Your success is a trauma response; you're never satisfied with your success, which creates women who struggle to find a balance between their personal and professional lives.
In conclusion, overcoming mother wounds is essential for unlocking your full potential as a female entrepreneur. These deep-seated beliefs and patterns, whether it's the need for perfection, overworking to prove your worth, or constantly seeking validation, can hold you back from the success and financial freedom you deserve. Breaking free from these limiting mindsets allows you to step into your true power, trust your intuition, and attract the right clients.
By healing these wounds, you can stop self-sabotaging, take bold actions in your business, and finally scale to the levels you've always envisioned. Remember, you don't have to stay small or be the "good girl" to be accepted. You have the right to want more, to thrive, and to build a life and business that align with your authentic self. It's time to invest in yourself, set healthy boundaries, and believe that you are worthy of success without overworking or people-pleasing. Trust in your own abilities and embrace your role as a leader, your entrepreneurial success is waiting.
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