Are You Toxic For Yourself ?
Become obsessed by you, and your 6-figure business will be on the corner.
Be your own truth letter
Dear True queen,
At this time of year, people ask questions about changing their lives by creating vision boards, changing their habits, and making resolutions. We're asking ourselves: are you being true to yourself?
If you wake up every morning and say to yourself:
I'm ugly
nobody likes me
my life sucks
I live from paycheck to paycheck in a job that doesn't stimulate me
I never have time for myself
I don't dare look in the mirror
I look at the networks as soon as I get up to tell myself that my life sucks
etc...
If you admit to yourself that these phrases have become part of your daily routine as soon as you open your eyes. Then you treat yourself like your own worst enemy and wonder why you can't get your dream business off the ground. How can people expect to fit into your world if you don't even like yourself?
We talk a lot about toxic relationships and manipulators. But we don't talk much about the toxicity we feel towards ourselves when we feel we're missing something when we have this false impression that if we don't get the results, the clients, it's because we're not like that successful coach.
What is a toxic relationship?
A toxic relationship is a relationship between 2 people, whether in love or not, that is neither based on mutual respect nor on healthy communication. It's a relationship where manipulation reigns, as well as a lack of esteem and trust. If we tend to attract this kind of relationship, it's because we're toxic towards ourselves.
So what is a self-toxic relationship?
It's treating yourself like crap, criticizing yourself from morning till night, not taking care of yourself, not creating healthy barriers, being a people pleaser, putting your work before yourself and your needs. You're envious of others and their success. You find it hard to be alone with yourself. Likewise, you always need a stimulus, something to keep you from dwelling on your thoughts or emotions. You binge on Netflix and eat or consume a lot. Furthermore, you have to invest in yourself. It's not your fault, it's the circumstances.
So, how can you believe you can have a business when you don't believe in yourself? If you want to create a 6-figure business, you have to believe in yourself first. You have to invest in yourself physically, and emotionally and in developing your business to stop self-sabotaging. You have to change your reality, your mindset because you're just making a vision board without believing in it.
Sometimes, if your vision board doesn't come true, you can't change. I know it's hard to tell yourself the truth.
But being in this toxic energy inside you, you give in to it every day instead of changing. Yes, reading about it, reading personal development books, but applying them, questioning yourself, and always moving forward without letting go of that negative voice that says you'll never make it will help you change your life.
Regaining Control to Build Your Business in 2024
Instead of focusing on what you lack, concentrate on your existing strengths and enhance them. I used to believe that if I didn't have any clients, it was due to my inadequacies. I couldn't embody my transformation. But then I realized that I was constructing a narrative that kept me small. It's easier to remain in a place of trauma, fear and inherited apprehensions about money. Instead of changing yourself from who you are to who you want to be, create a plan of attack. Step out of your comfort zone by hitting the gym, and taking action towards your business goals, even if you can't see results right away.
Avoid the temptation of immediate gratification. Break free from the norms, accept your differences, and express them boldly and proudly. True transformational change comes from taking action today, not waiting until the end of the year to make a change. You can heal yourself and move forward with honesty. Stop trying to save others and commit to saving yourself. This doesn't imply that you're selfish, because you can still donate to charities. But if you're here to help others, to fill the void in your heart, then it's a form of manipulation.
xoxo
